Like it or not, cyber-bullies and cyber-haters are real. No matter how they appear on the outside, they have low self-esteem and are insecure on the inside. People who have healthy self-esteem never waste time bullying others. So remember, you are not the problem. The cyber-bully is the problem.
Like it or not, cyber-bullies and cyber-haters are real
A bully or militant is a person or group who repeatedly uses behavior, strength or influence, to intimidate, torment, threaten, harass or embarrass others. The militant is combative or aggressive in support of a cause and typically favors extreme, violent, and confrontational methods.
If your not an adult and a cyber bully is causing you grief, you need to tell your parents. If you do not want to tell your parents, tell the pastor at your church, a counselor, or a teacher. The point is, you need to tell an adult.
The very fact that someone is a cyber-bully means that the bully does not think so highly of himself/herself. No matter how embarrassing the gossip is, it is not as bad as it seems.
Sometimes the cyber-bully torments people with personal information such as:
- sexual preferences
Remember this, no matter how embarrassing the gossip is, it is not as bad as it seems. And what the cyber-bully is hassling you with has probably happened to many other people before. Eventually, everything blows over and everything will be all right.
Dealing with a bully
With all the gossip and innuendo, you may be worried about your reputation. People will not think negative about you but instead will think that the bully is a loser.
- Stay in control.
- Ignore the bully – once the bully knows they have your attention, it could get worse.
- Never list your private information online, such as a telephone number. Sophisticated cyber-bullies can take that information and take the bullying to a higher level.
- Don’t argue or harass the bully.
If the bullying is happening on a social networking site or forum, delete the bully from your friends list and report the bully. If the bully is targeting you via email, mark their messages as spam and your spam filter will do the rest. If it doesn’t, you can always setup a new email account.
Should you report the bully?
If you know who the bully is, you might consider reporting them to the proper authorities. Provide copies of the harassing communications that the bully has been harassing you with. Know when to get serious. Although you should try to ignore the bully, if you feel like you are being threatened, call the police immediately.
Fix the problem and fix the bully?
Fix the problem. Sometimes bullies are born out of frustration. So look at the core issue and try to fix it. Chances are, if one person is frustrated, there are many others.
Communicating online doesn’t make it ok to be a bully
Fight the temptation. If you have ever been tempted to write nasty things about people online. Communicating online doesn’t make it ok to be a bully.